It’s really nice to see women supporting each other, whether it’s friends helping out or even strangers assisting someone they don’t know. To give her ex-boyfriend’s future girlfriend a warning about what to expect and share lessons from her own experience, a woman quietly left a letter. The online community quickly rallied around the new girlfriend with encouragement and advice after she shared this touching act of kindness on Reddit.
“My boyfriend Steve (30m) and I (28f) have been together for 2 years and living together for 8 months. While cleaning our apartment, I discovered a note tucked away in the back of a cabinet that said:
‘Dear Steve’s Future Girlfriend,
I know you’re reading this because he’d never clean back here. I’m leaving him soon and want to warn you about him:
1-He won’t clean;
2-He won’t listen;
3-He will make everything seem like it’s your fault;
It’s not your fault; he just doesn’t know how to handle things. I’m leaving him; you might want to do the same.
Best wishes, Natalia’”
“I read the note and showed it to him so I could hear his side. He immediately tore it up and said not to believe it, claiming she was crazy and untrustworthy. I told him that the fact he hadn’t found this note in 5 years since their breakup is concerning because it shows he hasn’t cleaned there at all, plus he has been cleaning less since I moved in.
He insisted that his ex is just trying to mess with his life again, saying I’m letting her get into my head. We kept arguing along those lines until I decided to spend the night at a friend’s house.
Steve has been an amazing boyfriend overall; he gets along well with my family, gives me gifts like flowers, and always tells me how much he loves me. He isn’t wrong that we haven’t talked much about cleaning before but finding that note made me realize it’s become less frequent lately which means we need an honest talk about this.”
“He texted later saying he’s sorry if my feelings made me leave but thinks it’s wrong for me to take one note over our two-year relationship while leaving him alone with our pets too! Right now I’m confused about what direction to take or who is right—I’m even thinking of reaching out directly to Natalia.
Steve believes I should return home & forget all this drama; his past shouldn’t affect us moving forward! He makes his ex sound manipulative during their time together but I’m unsure who or what can be trusted here.
When we first moved in together 8 months ago everything was split evenly when it came down too chores but now he’s doing less than before! It feels like every time I’ve got remind him simple things like taking plates back or throwing out trash which wasn’t needed earlier on—the dishes pile up unless i do them myself leading sometimes leftover food getting moldy.”
“I’m not one for confrontation so usually ask nicely when issues arise but after reading that letter made me think more deeply & try having an actual conversation instead yet felt unheard during discussions!
I tried using the letter as a way into talking about chores yet Steve got fixated on how i listened too his ex rather than hearing valid points from myself—he thinks i’m letting confirmation bias cloud my judgment meaning whatever excuse given would make him look bad!
Also just so you know—I didn’t leave permanently! This all happened yesterday & only spent one night away because felt stuck without progress last night while also being unable sleep until i agreed let go of everything… Planning return today wanted some advice before doing so.”
