Welcoming a baby is a huge moment for any couple, but Teresa felt heartbroken when her husband decided to be with his son instead of being there for their child’s birth. This choice led to a series of painful events, leaving her confused about what to do next. Now, she’s seeking help to face the challenges ahead.
Teresa’s letter:
“I can’t come. It’s my son’s big football game.” I shouted angrily, “I don’t want to ever see you!”
A week went by and he didn’t say anything. I got worried and visited his ex-wife’s house. His son looked scared when he saw me. I was shocked to learn that he had been staying there all along while they played board games together like one happy family!
To make things worse, his ex-wife started laughing and my blood ran cold seeing him do nothing to support me. She then said, “Your husband already has three kids; this fourth one isn’t as special for him as it is for you.” She added, “His first family will always come first; that’s just how life works.”
I couldn’t speak and left feeling crushed. After witnessing my husband’s lack of care and hearing his ex’s words, I’m seriously thinking about div:orce.
Today, four days after the birth, he finally came to see our daughter. While I know he can be a great dad sometimes; his attitude has really shocked me.
What should I do? Teresa
Teresa! Thanks for sharing your story! Here are some tips that might help you through these tough times.
Talk openly with your husband about your feelings.
Have an honest conversation with him about how hard it was that he chose his son’s football game over being at your daughter’s birth. Let him know that not being there during such an important moment felt like betrayal and made you feel alone.
He might not fully grasp how much this affected you emotionally so try helping him understand why this decision makes you rethink your relationship.
Create clear limits with his ex.
It could also help if you talk directly with her too—let her know she can have opinions but shouldn’t belittle the value of your family! Set firm boundaries so she doesn’t interfere in yours.
Evalueate His Commitment To Both Families.
His ex claimed that their “first family” will always matter more but find out if that’s true for him too! Ask openly if he agrees with her view because if so—it could mean long-term issues since it suggests he’ll put them before yours!
Understanding where he stands will help decide whether staying married is possible or not.
Consider Counseling Before Making A Final Decision
Instead of rushing into divo:rce right away consider couples counseling first—to better understand why he’s acting this way.A therapist can guide discussions revealing whether this behavior is just one-time or part of bigger problems.If things stay unchanged or no effort from him—you’ll have clearer insight on whether ending the marriage is best choice!
