My boyfriend told me he wants me to bea “traditional wife” out of nowhere…
… so I did what I thought was appropriateand broke up with him.
So a little back ground. We’re both 26.College educated. Both goal oriented andregarded highly in our respective careers.Both come from lower middle classfamilies that had to STRUGGLE.Nonetheless we both agree we wanted tohave children, but we would wait until weare in our 30’s and married for a coupleyears before the first child.
I’m not sure if his mindset is due to aquarter life crisis but he’s been havingsevere baby fever. Always sending mebaby videos and traditional wife videoswhile I’m at work. I thought it was cute atfirst because it just looked to me like hewas envisioning our future together and Ididn’t think too much about it. I asked himone day while we we were at dinner whatthat was all about. He told me he reallydoesn’t want us to both be workingparents and would love for me to be atraditional wife and give up my career forraising children. And here’s the kicker hesaid within the next couple years!
He said he wants to get married and have kids before we are “30 and old”. I laughed so hard at this because I genuinely |thought he was joking. He’s never said anything so dumb I swear.
He wasn’t joking though. He was serious.And he doubled down on it and said that’swhat he’s looking for now and he hopesI’m ok with the “change of plans”. LikeWTF.
I didn’t say anything for the rest of thedinner and when he dropped me off at MYapartment I gave him a peck on the cheekand said “I love you but we’re done, goodluck finding your traditional wife”. I couldhear him speaking when I shut the door.He just rolled down the window and said“Wtf does that mean?” I kept walking andwhen I got inside I blocked him oneverything.
3 years down the drain just like that. Hedidn’t frame anything like I had any choiceand it was just too disgusting anddegrading. I didn’t even feel like arguing.Everything he said just gave me the ick ofall icks. He can find someone who wantswhat he wants because I’m not changingfor him. I want to work, I want to wait onkids, i want to get married, we have toactually LIVE together for a bit too like wtf.I just want to stick to the f*****g planswe had.
I talked to some friends and they think Iwas too harsh on him. I did what I didbecause I don’t want to be manipulatedinto changing my entire life for him. Iknow he could convince me and I can’trisk it, f**k that. He’s great but I wouldnever be fully dependent on any man.That’s the reason my family was BROKEand I’m breaking the cycle.
And I just don’t want to do a 360 and bebarefoot and pregnant in a couple years.I’m just not ready. He just seemed soentitled and didn’t ASK me what I wantedthe whole time he was ranting. Was it outof character? Yes… but do I have time towaste on this s**t? No. Maybe I’m coldbut I feel like I made the right decision. Hehas been reaching out for closure andpossible reconciliation though through anold email I forgot about…. Ugh…
Share your thoughts and be kind please.
